Saying, "no," is difficult for some, but it is necessary. This is a big lesson for me that wasn't like a light switch. I didn't just switch it on gradually but after a couple of years of looking at the big picture. I have always to some degree have been a yes person. I put other's needs before my own, did for those that were unappreciative and pretty much drained myself. This behavior kept me in toxic relationships that sometimes were just mentally abusive. It also landed my body with various injuries (including spinal issues, knee issues, a life threatening blood clot, etc...) because I had just worn myself down and not taken care of myself. This was in all walks of my life, personal and work wise. People can be leeches sucking at your life's blood.
Although we all want to be, "yes," people, there is important power to the word, "no." Utilizing it to your benefit does not make you not a, "yes," person but helps to keep the leeches away. Think of it as a really powerful exterminator.
So that is my advice for the power of the word, "no." In those situations when you are being preyed upon, it is vital that you say no. Trust me, I for one learned this lesson the hard way. There are so many predators in this world and they are not in the vessels that you would expect. Narcissists come in all shapes, sizes and demeanor. There are overt ones and covert ones (I plan on doing tomorrow about these people and how to recognize them). There is appreciation and expectation. These people are cunning in their manipulation and can drain you. Just say, "no!" You will be a better for it.
Today I'm very proud that I accomplished and will accomplish the following goals:
1. Ran two miles. I'm still incredibly off pace and it was only two, but that leads to my next goal.
2. I'm exercising cautiously. Being a former athlete I have a tendency to push my body too far. Leads to injury. I'm exercising responsibly.
3. I'm opening my mind to new thoughts and new relationships. Just yesterday something came up about a blood sucking narcissists that I know and pretty much everyone I know, knows. I didn't engage. That being said I still feel like warning people so I'm in a flux here.
4. Getting a manicure later.
5. Going shopping with my friend Ms. Cin at Sephora.
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