Day 17: #30daysofselfcare - The Only Opinion of You That Matters is Yours

A few years ago I went through a horrendous ending of a relationship with a person.  I soon found out that the person put some crap out there about me.  My concern???  I had done everything in my life to protect people's perceptions of me.  I know now this is a pointless endeavor.  The funny thing was, I couldn't tell you one single entity that I worried having a negative opinion of me, it was just in general a blanket of worry about what people thought.  Perceptions.  Things you cannot control.

It took words from my very dear friend Eric who conveyed probably one of the best pieces of advice I have ever been given.  I'm paraphrasing him, but essentially it was, "what do you care what people think?"  "You can't control it and it is only affecting you."

The truth is, in the situation I knew who I was.  I was someone that even in the most difficult of times, still put another person before myself until it just became too much.  Fortunately, I did recognize when that was.  In the end when it was time to just stop, I cut communication.  I did not try to tarnish a reputation.  I spoke only to my friends regarding the issue and that was enough.  They took care of my well being, I knew again who I was.

It reminded me again of my grandfather who would offer, "Be you.  No one can take that from you regardless of how hard they try.  Truth always finds a way, but don't even be concerned with that."  That really kept playing through my head over and over.  At that moment I took on the idea of one of my favorite women of all time... CoCo Chanel.

Today's Self Care:

1.  Continued not to exercise due to my lungs and was o.k. with it.
2.  Saw my doctor.
3.  Cuddled on the couch with my cat.